The pain of self discipline is so much better than the pain of regret.

I just read this quote and after struggling with what on Earth to write about recently, I knew I had to reflect on this.


Whenever I think about self disciplined people I think of those who are health freaks, those who take care of their bodies to the maximum or perhaps religious people (not necessarily Muslims) who do extreme acts of self discipline such as no talking or no marriage. To me, these acts would take an enormous amount of self discipline.

But what about you and I, ordinary folk. Are we self disciplined enough?

That answer depends on your expectation of yourself. 

Speaking for myself, I think not. Most of the time, I consider myself quite lazy. But this is my own perception and standard. Have you noticed, each person has their own standard of what they personally consider to be active, lazy, religious..?

Perhaps to someone else, I am very active, very outgoing and very religious… it all depends on his/her own idea’s.

Yet, to another, I might be considered, lazy, boring and not very religious at all.

So how do we judge ourselves correctly? Well, I think we should look at the Prophet (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam.) and his companions, get to know them & think about their choices in life, their role in life and then we can judge ourselves comparing to them…

That way, we will always strive to do more. That way, we are not fooling ourselves, “Oh, I am doing much better than so & so, she doesn’t even wear hijab.”

or, “I am nothing compared to so & so, she memorised the whole Qur’an.”

Both thoughts, I have thought at one stage or another…

So, since I know that I am not disciplining myself enough, and in case you are feeling the same, how do we change it? How do we improve ourselves? We know for a fact, in our religion, nothing is done for us.

There is no person who can strive, except you. But the good news is that you are capable. I am capable. Every son of Adam (AS) is capable of doing more, being better, going the extra mile and becoming more self disciplined.

What is the purpose of self discipline?

To later avoid regret. We will, essentially, regret parts of our life, when it comes to the end. Something we said, something we did, something we wasted time over but we should at least try to minimise this regret and know that death will come, to all of us and its prescribed time.

If you have any tips, please leave them for me in the comments below!



3 thoughts on “The pain of self discipline is so much better than the pain of regret.

  1. Safiyah says:

    My husband always remind me that every second I have wasted, Allah will question me for it. I think instilling fear is not the only thing that will keep us doing something beneficial and keeping self-discipline but also the gratefulness of every second and everyday that we are given another chance to live. ❤️

    I will keep myself posted in the comments for tips because I need them badly!

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    • Shukrallah says:

      Ohhh I love that! I never thought about it like that before, SubhanAllah how true and scary, we will even be questioned about our free time and how we spent it…. wow!

      Yes, undoubtedly, I agree a fine balance between fear and hope to motivate us ❤

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