Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behaviour does.


Water is the softest thing, yet it can penetrate mountains and earth. This shows clearly the principle of softness overcoming hardness.
– Lao Tzu

When Umar Ibn Al Khattab, radi allahu `anhu (may God be pleased with him) explains that Islam is manners, he doesn’t mean simply, “please and thank-you”

Rather, it’s in those times when someone insults you, harms you or you are in an alien situation and you handle it with the most grace and wisdom.

What did the Prophet (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam) do when he saw a bedoin man urinating in the madjid? Baring in mind, the Prophet (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam) was in a position of power, he had an army of men with him – this poor bedoin could have been murdered within seconds.

Similarly, a Western woman embraced Islam. She believed SubhanAllah and she went to the mosque for the first time. She did not wear hijab and simply wore her normal clothes. She doesn’t know better but instead of being guided, helped and embraced – she was turned away. A man shouted at her for her disgrace to turn up to the mosque like that and she thought, if this is Islam I do not need it and left.

SubhanAllah – as Muslims we should be the kindest, strongest and most graceful people on Earth. After all, we have the very best of role models. We have many examples to show us how to be better, to do better.

Ibn Al Qayyim, radi allahu `anhu (may God be pleased with him) said:
“The religion itself is entirely good character, so whoever surpasses you in character has surpassed you in religion.”

Imam Ali, radi allahu `anhu (may God be pleased with him) said:
“Verily, a part of worship is to talk to people in a gentle manner and to spread the greeting of peace among them.”

Prophet Muhammad (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam) said:

“Two characteristics are not found together in a hypocrite:

Good manners and understanding of religion (fiqh fi-Din).”


Ya Rabb, Ya Karim, whoever wishes good for me in the secrecy of the night or in the openness of daylight, grant them double of what they have wished for me. And whoever wishes harm to touch me, pardon them and stretch distance and forgiveness between us.



3 thoughts on “Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behaviour does.

  1. ashleybounoura says:

    Salaam, finally catching up on my backlog of reading that I’ve had sitting in my inbox for ages! I absolutely loved this ma shaa Allah! Such an important balance that people all too often forget about. How many times does the Qur’an mention people who believe AND do good works (like having manners!) but so many people seem to choose one or the other. Jazakum Allahu khairan for the reminder 😊

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