When was the last time you kissed your husbands hands?

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I thought it was strange but delightful the first time my husband kissed my hands it was like a thousand words spoken in just one act. In my culture, it isn’t very common for wife/husband or boyfriend/girlfriend to kiss their spouse’s hands. It’s a beautiful deed to do, towards your significant other to show them that you love them and appreciate them.

So many hours our husbands spend at work, outside of the family home, pleasing Allah or making money in order to survive.

In fact, by Islamic Law {unless ill or any other major reason you can think of} a man cannot spend a full 24 hours at home, to relax, to have a “pyjama day” or to just get out of the sunshine/cold weather… depending on where you live.

As women, we forget that we don’t have to go to the masjid for every prayer, or make a living in order to support the family, or travel. These responsibilities are given to men only, by Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla. For us, it’s simply an option. We can pray at home, take a day off at home, or simply decide not to work at all and enjoy ourselves at home.

Men {if he is a man} by nature, will never complain. They will keep going and going, usually until they retire. Men are usually less sensitive than us, and although our work at home is sometimes exhausting and stressful – there’s is too.

Just like your commitment to Islam, your marriage won’t succeed without commitment. A positive relationship requires two people to work together, appreciate each other and to hold each other up when the other one falls.

There are two things that if you do them you will attain the good of this world and the hereafter; [They are] that you bear what you dislike if it is beloved to Allah and you leave what you like if it is disliked by Allah.
– Ibn Hazm al-Andalusi

We give up things we love, things that other people are doing – for Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla. Similarly, we should try to please our spouse and respect them. Make the family home a comfortable place, where your spouse feels safe and free. Free to be himself and safe knowing you are there. No marriage on earth is perfect. We should not strive for perfection but instead to build each other up, help each other to be the best version of ourselves.

Research shows that in most happy and long-lasting marriages, couples spend at least 5 hours per week of quality time together.

Even the Prophet (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam) with his busy schedule, made time every day to spend with each of his wives. It can be doing something simple like going for a walk together, having a cup of coffee or tea together, going out on a formal date or simply staying at home enjoying each others company.

Even if it’s not your norm, even if it’s been a while, even if you already done it today – kiss your husband’s hand and tell him what he means to you.
I promise you won’t regret it. In life, we only regret the things we didn’t do while we had the chance.

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11 thoughts on “When was the last time you kissed your husbands hands?

  1. Chelsea says:

    Aww mashaAllah this is such a sweet post and a beautiful reminder. As women we often try to prove that being at home or juggling home with work isn’t as easy as everyone thinks. And while that’s so true we still need to remember that our husbands work so hard as well and we should always show them love and care 🙂

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    • Shukrallah says:

      Jazak Allah Kheir Chelsea! I’m so glad you enjoyed it and found it useful! Both genders work really hard but sometimes we can focus on our own struggles we forget about our partners! May Allah bless your marriage.

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  2. Khawlah says:

    What a beautiful post masha’Allah 🙂 A happy home is one in which the occupants mutually respect and appreciate each other. I look forward to the day I have a husband whose hands I can kiss regularly insha’Allah 🙂 ❤

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  3. breharne says:

    Like you, this act is foreign to me because of my culture. And I admit I find it uncomfortable when my children are encouraged to kiss people’s hands. But I am learning.

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  4. Rāyä says:

    Ma sha Allah very good advice sis. Yes it is the HARDEST to change the negatives, however you’re right that if Allah dislikes it then it should be a sacrifice made for the good of the relationship. What a great hadith sub han Allah!

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    • Shukrallah says:

      I think all things become easier, when you know why you’re doing it i/e for Allah! This helps us get through the boring parts of life like the housework to the hardest parts and tests of life.

      Barakallahi Feek for your comment ❤

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