He put between you love and compassion.

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Before married life, marriage seems like a bed of roses, the dream and something we all fantasize about. After marriage, we realise marriage is actually a bed of sacrifice. Although, there are blissful times, a successful marriage is not build on love, but rather sacrifice.

What is the importance of finding a religious partner and not just a pretty face? The rich guy, the good looking guy, the hysterically funny guy might attract your attention but what matters most is what’s underneath all that bravado.

Who is going to clean up your sick at 2am when you have the flu? Who is going to inspire you to be a better person? Who is going to lead by example and go the extra mile, every day for God? Ultimately, do you want a man dancing behind you in the club? Or a man standing in front of you leading the prayer?

 

The golden rule of relationships: Every situation passes. All that remains is how you treated each other in the moment before it does.
– Yasmin Mogahed

Not only Islam, but most religions promote marriage. Atheists, rarely get married although have the highest fornication rates. In a study of 35000 cases in 15 countries, Dr Kate Scott, {not a Muslim} of Otago, Willington University in New Zealand, concluded after this thorough study that marriage helps in reducing depression and psychological pressure.

Worldy pressure, society and sometimes family, too might persuade you to marry for money, for fame, for power, for looks, for anything really, except the Deen.

I’d rather lie on a mattress, in a house with no furniture and no money with a man who fears Allah and loves me for His sake knowing that through the best of times and the very worst, he is there, strong and protecting me and will never, ever give up on me.

Let the wife make the husband glad to come home & let him make her sorry to see him leave. 
– Martin Luther King

Tips for Brothers:
Make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times.
You should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.
Expect drama, women can be dramatic and childish. When you have an argument it can feel like the end of the world to her so just hold her, look her in the eyes and say “I am sorry for the argument”.
Bath together with her, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it’s available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn’t know it.
Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she’s beautiful and that you’re happy to have her as your partner.
Don’t ever stop dating your wife.
The Prophet (Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam) said, “The best among you all are those who are best to their wives.” Therefore, you {men} are the one who is supposed to go the extra mile and you are one who is supposed to be tolerant

Tips for Sisters:
If you want to chat don’t chat to other men. Be completely loyal to your husband, even on social media.
Learn to cook his favourite food. At times, bake cake for him to surprise him. His love for you will increase.
Don’t greet your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to return him safely.
Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, don’t compare him with other men, don’t describe other women to him, buy gifts for him. Ask him to teach you about God.
Learn to ignore some things, don’t be petty.
Make du’a for him often and ask Allah to reward him.
Don’t ever stop flirting with your husband.

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4 thoughts on “He put between you love and compassion.

    • Shukrallah says:

      May Allah Bless you, dearly! Thanks for the supportive words.
      As RasulAllah (saw) said, “A good word is a charitable act.” [Bukhari] May He reward you.
      If you think others would enjoy it, too please do share!

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