Modesty is a huge part of Islam. Most people think modesty is something physical.. the way one looks. But honestly, modesty is everything. Modesty encompasses our whole entire lifestyle. Modesty is not simply a beard, or a hijab.
We should be modest in the way we love others:
Umar Ibn Al Khattab (RA) said, “Do not let your love be obsessive and do not let your hatred be destructive. When you love, do not go to a level of obsession like a child does with the thing he loves.”
We should be modest in the way we talk:
Aisha (RA) reported that the Prophet Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam said: “Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.”
[Sahih Muslim 2594]
We should be modest in how much food we eat:
Umar Ibn Al Khattab (RA) said, “O people! Stay away from getting obese, for it makes one lazy in prayers, corrupts the body, and brings disease.”
Don’t tell them you are Muslim; show them you are Muslim. Show them in your actions, in your compassion, in your kindness, in your smile, in you peace of heart and humble nature. Show them in your dress code and your dedication to your Deen. Show them what Islam is. Show them through your modesty.
The purpose of modesty is to achieve a good character. Islamic scholar Ibn Al-Qayyim said, “The entire Deen is (about) good character, so whoever exceeds you in good character, has exceeded you in the Deen.”
The Prophet Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam said, “Haya (Modesty) is part of Iman (faith).”
There’s no doubt, as our Iman grows, our modesty and submission to Allah also grows. It is not the hijab/beard alone which makes one a good Muslim and it is not the one who says “Islam is in the heart” as we wouldn’t hand over an empty test paper and say “knowledge is in the brain.” Instead, we aim to achieve both. Inner and outer modesty.
Mufti Menk says, “I have seen people who look very religious but are very far from it. And I have seen others who look far from it yet they are religious.”
Islam is a beautiful balance in the middle.
Take a minute to review yourself and ask, “Is Allah pleased with the way I’m living my life?”