Sometimes we want a perfect family and we create a delusional standard that family should be a utopia– yet, we don’t find a single perfect family in the Quran.
Ibrahim’s father threw him in the fire, and later Ibrahim alay-hi sallam was asked to sacrifice his son.
Maryam had Jesus alay-hi sallam without a single man ever touching her.
Noah alay-hi sallam watched his son drown and had to hear from God that his son was no longer his son.
Musa alay-hi sallam grew up in the house of the worst human being ever to walk the face of the Earth.
Yusuf alay-hi sallam was thrown into a well by his own brothers but later became the treasurer and inspector of Egypt’s storage chambers.
Islam teaches us not to let the tough times destroy us and not to let the good times distract us, and to remember that life is just a test.
You can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family. Perhaps you don’t come from a Muslim family & you think those who do are blessed, they have it so easy. Your parents perception of Islam is distorted due to media and they give you a hard time.
Perhaps you come from a Muslim family but they have adapted Islam to their culture and you are messed up. You don’t know what is Islam and what is culture anymore.
We always think the grass is greener on the other side. If you are a revert to Islam, like me, you do not have a Muslim background. Your parents and siblings are non Muslim. You should feel privilaged. Even the Prophet’s Sall Allāhu ʿalay-hi wa-sallam parents were disbelievers. Imagine. He went through so many hardships in his life, he lost so many people who he loved. He had seven children, six which were born to the most beloved person to him in his life (Khadijah). Seven. And he lost all within his life except for hid daughter, Fatima within his life. SubhanAllah. They were his kids and his wife who he loved so dearly. Imagine that. No, really, try and comprehend it. Deep right?
He lost his wife and uncle. The two people in his life who supported him and believed in what he was saying since day one. While others called him mad and a sorcerer. It was deep penetrated pain. It hurt a lot. Yet he never shook in his religion and despite all of that, he was able to maintain the most amazing character and behaviour towards people. Rather than becoming bitter towards everything and saying miserable things about Allah.
Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.
– Alan Cohen
If you have someone in your life who supports you, cares for you and look after you – you are blessed. Don’t take them for granted. Cherish them. If you don’t, focus on being that person – until the right one comes along.